Growing up I watched my father manage to simultaneously know everything and nothing about just every subject. He had a unique quality of knowing exactly when it was time to try to fix the lawn mower with duct tape and when to call the repair shop to have someone come to the house to work their magic. I was always fascinated in seeing his home repairs which, miraculously, didn’t kill any of us and always seemed to take care of the issue. In hindsight, my Dad had some serious self-awareness.
For many of you who follow us on Instagram or Facebook, you have seen our short videos which many times focus on giving us permission to take care of ourselves whilst we navigate the craziness of life. We talk about utilizing a combination of meditation, awareness and empathy to help us deal with an increasingly busy and uncaring world. And while most of the time this self-help mantra works, there are also times it all just becomes too much. In short there are times in life when, like Dad would sometimes have to, we need to call the repair shop.
At Loeta we pride ourselves on being the ones who are there for families and clients when despite them utilizing all of their own expertise, need some extra support. Certainly we don’t profess to be experts at everything, and as those of you who have worked with us know, we allow everyone involved in the process to utilize their expertise. We always depend on the expertise of our client and their family to help us to learn more about what will, or will not, work in helping them move to the next step, whatever that may be. We also rely on the expertise of other treatment professionals who have worked with our client who can help us paint a clearer picture of what has been going on. When dealing with placement services, what we bring to the equation is knowledge of the programs, treatment centers and schools which work best for each of our clients; we have spent years learning about, visiting and analyzing literally hundreds of programs and because we are independent consultants hired by the families, we are able to offer unbiased recommendations.
As far as our coaching practice goes, that is a newer and different set of parameters altogether. Keeping the metaphor of home repair going, in coaching we like to think of ourselves as YouTube; we won’t do the work for you, but we will show you how to do it for yourselves. We will give you the ideas, and even talk you through it, but in the end, you have to do the work yourselves.
Similar to my Dad’s home repairs, it’s all about balance. So next time we find ourselves in a situation where we have tried everything and it’s still not working, that would be a good time to do just like Dad used to do, call in an expert…
Bar Clarke has been working with families for 30 years. He uses his knowledge of family dynamics coupled with his own personal struggles to help families find a new path